Controlling Anger Before It Controls You

Angry man breaking pencil.

Have you ever be in this situation? Where someone joking with you and then you fill this is not even the jokes.

But what you do is just laugh and nothing sensitivity about the joke. That so funny.

You cannot angry, because if you are angry you spoil the mood. Then your friends will mention to you that it was jokes and you fill like to explode but you can’t explode.

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.

So, here some tips if you are in that situation like above.

Strategies to Keep Anger

1. Do Relaxation

Relaxation technique by a deep breath. Sit down and relax your body then breathe. Breathe slowly for 5 seconds then exhale slowly.

Do this for a few times until you focus on your breathing.

Practice these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you’re in a tense situation.

2. Reconstruct your cognitive

Tell yourself that this situation is very frustrating but at the same time remind yourself that getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won’t make you feel better (and may actually make you feel worse).

 As part of their cognitive restructuring, angry people need to become aware of their demanding nature and translate their expectations into desires. In other words, saying, “I would like” something is healthier than saying, “I demand” or “I must have” something. Avoid justifying your anger.

After you relax and reconstruct your mind but this situation not done yet. You should move to the next step.

3.Better Communication

Communicate to that person. This is not funny anymore. I don’t like this joke. But make sure you tell that person after you fill free and relax.

Relax…construct your mind and only then you can talk to them.

If you have done with step one and two but you cannot communicate with them. You feel if you communicate with them you will burst out.  What can you do is, walk away from that environment for a while.

Lastly, just to remind all of you to avoid social media when you are angry.